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Managing motherhood expectations:

Five tips for managing your expectations of motherhood...
By Dr Melanie Strang
Date: February 13 2012
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Five tips for managing your expectations of motherhood...

Be flexible - It is common for mums to struggle with coming to terms with what they planned versus what reality serves up. For example you may have planned to return to work by three months yet circumstances change when bub arrives.

Don’t believe the hype -The media portrays a romanticized version of motherhood: Understand that life with a young baby does not look like a Huggies ad! There are amazing moments of joy and bonding yet this is mixed with plenty of dirty nappies, hard work and acclimatising to this massive transition.
Love takes time - Bonding with your baby may not happen immediately: It is normal for bonding to occur over a period of weeks to months. If a baby has a medical illness bonding may take longer- this may not be in line with your expectations but it’s ok.
It ok to be sad -There are many losses associated with motherhood: Having a baby is a time of wonderment and joy but acknowledging the losses will help you move forward-you are now a different version of yourself.
There are no rights and wrongs - No one bit of advice or parenting book will have all the magic answers- you and your baby are a unique pair to be understood in your own right.
By Dr Melanie Strang
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Averil says: 2012 02 14

All this seems so self-evident to the experienced mum, but it is amazing how many new mums have a totally unrealistic idea of motherhood.

Maddie says: 2012 02 14

The guilt is the thing that got me - feeling awful about feeling awful.

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