Everyone knows that this time of year can be a stressful time. There's a lot of planning that goes on for family get-togethers, holiday parties, dinners, and even traveling. The conflicts that are bound to arise bring up mixed feelings and can lead to stress and anxiety.
However, the holidays can also be a time to reflect on all of the good things you have in your life and enjoy spending time with your close friends and loved ones. If you're prone to holiday stress once November comes around, try following these eight tips shared by positive living speaker and life coach, Diane Lang.
1. Start early
One of the best ways to avoid holiday stress is to start planning early! This means making to-do lists, grocery lists, getting a head start on your gift shopping and more. When you wait until the last minute to do these things, that's when the stress really gets to you. You can avoid all of that by just making a few lists early on and taking time to complete them a few tasks at a time instead of all at once.
2. Take care of YOU
When you're starting to feel overwhelmed by all of the tasks you have to do and by the idea that you will soon have to spend time entertaining your large, extended family, create some personal time to relax. Make time in your schedule to do whatever it is that makes you happy, whether it's a day at the spa, reading a good book, or enjoying a glass of wine before bed. Some solitary time is important and it's good to indulge every once in a while.
3. Be up-front financially
Money is another big factor in holiday stress since most people plan to buy presents for the family, cook dinner for a group, and even host big parties. The holidays are always a tough time financially and you shouldn't spend money that you don't have and can't afford to be spending. If money is tight, create a strict budget for yourself and make sure to stick to it. Consider buying presents only for the kids, doing a Secret Santa for the adults, or even use your creativity to make some homemade gifts.
4. Get some exercise
Have you heard this before!? Getting active and doing some form of exercise does wonders for relieving stress. Even going for a brisk walk for 30 minutes a day can be extremely beneficial. Grab a neighbour or a friend to accompany you so you can talk while you're on the move and you won't even realise that what you're doing is exercising. If possible, get the whole family involved in a family walk so they can all benefit from lower levels of stress.
5. Ask for help
If you're the person in the family who is doing all of the planning, all of the cooking, and all of the shopping, you really should consider asking for help. No one can be expected to do so many things at once so learn to delegate tasks to others. Ask family members to each bring a different dish to dinner to relieve some of your cooking duties. Everyone should be doing his or her part to help out, even during clean up.
The holidays are really about spending quality time with your friends and family. It's not about the presents, or the food, or the parties. We should feel grateful and happy for our health and for being surrounded by loved ones. These are lessons to pass on to your children and teach them to appreciate all of the little things in life that make us happy.
7. Watch the signs
Listen to your body. If you are noticing any of the following signs then it's time to make changes:
- Change in sleeping habits
- Change in eating habits
- Feeling irritable, moody and unhappy
- Exhaustion and fatigue
- Panic attack symptoms like dizziness, heavy chest, heart racing, headache, feeling nauseous, hot and cold flashes
- Physical signs such as headaches, stomach aches, joint pain and low immune system - catching frequent colds and illnesses.
These symptoms are all warning signs of too much stress and anxiety in our lives. This is a sign to slow down and take a time out.
8. Pay it forward
For the holidays join a local charity and help with serving dinners, dropping off presents and giving hugs. Every time we do a random act of kindness we help others while helping ourselves. Random acts of kindness give a boost of happiness that lasts. Spread the joy!