Kerryn Boogaard Kerryn Boogaard
Beverly Goldsmith Beverly Goldsmith
Zoe Bingley-Pullin Zoe Bingley-Pullin

The quirks of marriage:

How often has someone told you that "you have overanalysed a situation", "you think too much", or "stop questioning"?
By Tahlia Mandie
Date: November 27 2011
Tags:
Editor Rating:
relationship
Image Source:

freedigitalphotos.net

How often has someone told you that "you have overanalysed a situation", "you think too much", or "stop questioning"? We seem to crave the questions, and the thinking. Letting our mind stop… stop… what is stopping. Can we ever switch it off where the thinking does not happen?

Why is it so hard for us to accept that sometimes there is no answer to the mundane, weird and wonderful, yet quirky traits our partners present us? After years of marriage, the quirks still keep coming in… and we keep questioning…

You would think you know what you are getting yourself into, but then suddenly… “I don’t like asparagus.” Somehow this dislike has miraculously come up, or you haven’t cooked asparagus in years, or last time, he just ate it to please you.

It keeps it interesting, it keeps it entertaining, but at times it is just down right annoying. For years I would find plastic shopping bags just lying around. You would think that after the unpacking, the instinctive next step is to put the bag away. Nope, somehow, the mind works differently and the bag remains.  Finally I think it is trained out of him, but there are the occasions.

So do we expect our men to be and act and think the way we do? The expectation that their instincts and intuition match what we would do? I often wonder why sometimes it is hard to accept the little quirks, the idiosyncrasies instead of trying to change and train the behaviour?

Maybe we unconsciously want something a little different? All I know is that they will be who they are. Men are men. There was certainly some truth when the claims that Men Are From Mars And Women Are From Venus was published and sold all over the world. They are just different. A one-track mind, with simple answers… sometimes no answer. Maybe the best move we could do is stop trying to change and accept the quirks. Note to my man: you are who you are and I love you for it, even though it sometimes annoys me.

Tahlia Mandie is a psychotherapist, family therapistand blogger at the parenting files – because families mattertalking about relationships, life, parenting and all things family matters.  

Do you agree that we should just accept the quirks of marriage? Share your views...

100% of Mums Agree0% of Mums Disagree
Share This Tweet This Email To Friend
Recent Comments
1 Total Comments
Martha says: 2011 12 18
Rating:

I just don’t buy this ‘men are different’ line.  So many exceptions disprove the ‘rule’.

View All Comments
Post a Comment
* your email address will not appear

Please enter the word you see in the image below:


Post a Comment
* your email address will not appear

Please enter the word you see in the image below:33343


Your Comment has been posted
Shipping-containers-freight-wallpaper-preview

Latest Tech Used In Shipping Containers
Read how the shipping industry has revolutionised

Motherpedia cover-2

Win 1 set of a 4-book hardcover illustrated boxed set
Barbara Murray’s new 4-book Sound Stories is perfect for parents and educators and could assist with NAPLAN results

Motherpedia cover (4)

Where to celebrate Oktoberfest Australia
Get ready for this celebration!

Vtech giveaway motherpedia

Win 1 of 3 VTech Toys Pack Giveaway
Playtime is so much more with VTech

Motherpedia cover-4

A Fortnight of Foodie Experiences at East Village
A taste of East Village. What's in it for me?

Globber my too fix up cover

We Try: Globber My TOO Fix Up
A scooter that grows with your child

Throw a winning cricket pitch

3 Steps to a Winning Backyard Cricket Pitch
Ex-Adelaide Oval legend curator Les Burdett shares his tips for getting your backyard cricket pitch test match ready this summer

A bike that follows your kids life cycle - motherpedia - cover

A Bike That Follows Your Kids Life Cycle
Check out the Bunzi 2-in-1 gradual balance bike!

Moonlight lifestyle

Moonlight Cinema to bring…
Moonlight Cinema announces brand new Western Sydney venue

Screen shot 2019-11-26 at 8.29.12 am

Your Magical Christmas Wonderland…
Adventure park is about to light up the night sky with its "Christmas Festival of Lights"

Screen shot 2019-11-21 at 11.11.36 am

The Preston Market Gets…
It's time to feel pumped up for the holiday season!

Bruno-kelzer-zqzuigxcvrq-unsplash

Bunnings team members get…
Help raise funds by buying a snag or donating at your local store.