No matter how old they get, children will always be children to those who raised them, who love them unconditionally, and who were there for them every step of the way. For that reason, it can be quite a struggle when it’s finally time for them to leave the nest, and start a new life on their own. If you want to make this transition as seamless and pleasant as possible for your child, here are the most essential steps you need to take in order to help your child move out of their home:
Have an open conversation
As there are a growing number of instances where fully grown adults are still living with their parents, the old belief that you should leave home at the age of 18 doesn’t exactly hold up anymore. Now, we have learned that people mature at different paces, and might be prepared for leaving the nest at different times as a result.
Is your child moving out because they have to or because they want to? In other words, are they a fully formed adult prepared for independent life or are they terrified at the thought? It might be a good idea to have an open and honest conversation with your child about leaving home, as they might require more emotional support throughout this period than you thought.
Prepare them for independence
It’s also important to remember that the responsibility doesn’t entirely fall on your child; it’s your job as a parent to prepare them for independent life while they’re still with you at home. This means teaching them basic life skills such as cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry, making sure they have experience grocery shopping, learning how to make important appointments, as well as teaching them how to pay their bills and handle their finances.
These essential skills will help to foster independence and autonomy in your child. If you simply decide to leave them on their own, without any prior knowledge, you will only risk causing trauma and damage that’s hard to repair.
Consider transitional housing
If your child hasn’t had any experience living on their own, or they simply need a place to stay until you find the ideal home to buy, it might be wise to consider transitional housing in the meantime. Such accommodation will give your child the opportunity to learn how to be fully independent before making the final commitment.
A great solution might be beautiful service apartments that are as comfortable and cosy as they are practical. These apartments offer private sleeping and living areas, including a bathroom, as well as communal spaces such as a laundry room, kitchen, and lounge areas. This setting will allow your child to learn both how to live on their own and be a part of a community, in the most efficient way possible.
Set clear personal boundaries
Although it might be difficult, you have to set some clear boundaries and rules when your child is moving for the first time, if you want them to be more autonomous. For instance, if your child plans on moving out only to waste all their money on shopping or going out, and then come to you begging for help, explain to them that you simply won’t be giving them money after every mistake they make.
Whether you’re talking about being responsible with earnings or deciding when they can come home for visits, as a good and responsible parent you simply need to set appropriate expectations, in order to ensure your child becomes a healthy, independent adult.
Get some help with the move
When the final moving day actually comes, it might be a good idea to ask some of your family members, friends, or even neighbours to help you with the move. As your child will most likely bring nearly all of their possessions with them, getting additional help will take some of the burden off of you and your child.
However, it’s not only physical exhaustion you will avoid. When you have a small group of people who are so eager to help you and your child, it will send your child the message that they are a part of a loving, caring, close-knit community. That way, your child might feel less stressed and anxious about moving out, knowing they have a support group to fall back on no matter what happens.
While it’s always difficult to say goodbye to your child, by following these essential steps above you will be able to prepare them for independence, and allow them to have a good life on their own.