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Making the most of your oncology appointment:

A medical oncologist, who has also been a cancer patient, gives a unique view.
By Professor Naoto Ueno
Date: March 19 2013
Tags: health, cancer,
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As a patient, you’re entitled to ask your health care providers anything. In that sense, there are no bad questions. But some questions will help you get more out of your interaction with your health care providers than others. This advice comes from my experience as a medical oncologist and a cancer survivor.

Before asking your questions, remember that you’re dealing with a human being. Doctors are not gods or saints. We try to remain professional, but just like anyone else, we prefer to deal with those who are pleasant.

You don’t have to hide your anger or frustration or deep sense of sadness at your diagnosis, but it’s important for you that you get the most out of your appointment time. It’s also worth remembering that doctors don’t have unlimited time. We’d like to provide you with all the time and attention you need, but the reality is there will always be a limit on a doctor’s time. So, well-timed, organised and well-thought-out questions can make all the difference. Here are some things that you can do before you start asking questions:

  1. Ask if this is the best time to ask questions, and if not, ask when would be a better time. Doctors do appreciate this question.

  2. Prepare yourself ahead of time with an organized list of questions.

When you’re asking questions, here are some helpful things for you to say.

  • “I don’t understand what you’re saying.” If you don’t understand, please say so. Also, don’t nod your head if you don’t understand. If you keep nodding, the doctor will assume that you understand and continue speaking.

  • “Can you please explain that using simpler words?” Doctors have a tendency to use professional jargon, although we try not to. So, if you don’t understand something, ask for clarification. On the other hand, if the terminology seems too simple for you, ask for a more detailed explanation.

  • “My understanding is X; do I understand this correctly?” It’s important to restate what you’ve heard to confirm that you understand. “Did we agree to X, then Y, then Z?” This is a good thing to do at the end of your visit.

Here are some questions or statements that are unlikely to be helpful.

  • “Am I going to die?” Nobody knows. Although you may be tempted to ask this, instead consider asking about how long symptoms/illness might last, when the tumour might shrink, or when you can go back home or to work. Although doctors generally cannot predict overall outcomes, they may be able to estimate these more concrete aspects based on available evidence.

  • “What would you do if this were your wife or your husband?” Unless you are very familiar with the personal values of the doctor, you can get misled into a decision that you may not be happy with later on.

  • “I don’t like (hate) clinical trials or chemotherapy.” Be careful before you say this. Doctors may remember your words so strongly that they will never bring it up in the future. If you change your mind later, you should say so; you would be surprised how much we’re influenced by what you say.

  • “I don’t know what I should ask” or asking no questions. This is like saying you have no interest in what’s happening. If you don’t know what to say, we don’t know where to start, either. If you honestly have no questions, at least state that you clearly understand the situation and the plan.

If you really don’t know what to ask, consider questions like.

  • Can you write down the next step in the plan?

  • Why are we doing these tests?

  • Why am I receiving this treatment?

  • What are the side effects of this medication?

  • How effective is the treatment?

  • Please explain how the treatment will help.

  • Why do you think that this is the best treatment for me?

Remember, questions are one of the primary resources that you as a patient have to enhance your quality of care and treatment and protect yourself from poor care - so, as much as possible, prepare yourself for your appointment just as you would anything.

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Professor Naoto Ueno is Professor of Medicine at the University of Texas and Executive Director of the Morgan Welch Inflammatory Breast Cancer program. This article is reproduced courtesy of

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